After the exuberance of the long-awaited wedding day,
grooms and brides alike experience post-wedding blues. It's understandable,
considering that most brides spend every waking moment planning in the months
leading up to the wedding. First-time brides experience a post-wedding pause
that comes as a surprise after months of planning.
Psychology
Today reports that in their first year of marriage, one in ten women
experience depression and many more pursue marriage counseling with their
partners due to this feeling. These
real brides struggled with post-wedding blues. Luckily, there are a number
of ways to prevent post-wedding blues before they even start.
If you're planning a wedding, read on for six ways to
prevent the post-wedding blues and enjoy married life.
1. Leave yourself
some wedding-related projects after the big day.
It's quite possible to plan your wedding a little too
thoroughly. That's why it's a great idea to save important tasks like creating
a wedding album, framing your photos, and saving key pieces of decor
post-wedding. Plus, tasks like writing thank you notes and sharing your wedding
photo gallery on social media have to wait until after the wedding anyway.
These are a great way to relive the day without feeling sad.
2. Plan to move in
after the big day.
If you're planning to move in with your partner after
your wedding day, save yourself the stress and wait until after the honeymoon.
Not only will you gain a little extra time before the wedding, but you'll also
have an exciting planning project to tackle after the big day. Right after the
wedding, you'll immediately have more time to wind down from the excitement of
the wedding day and discover the adventure that is married life.
3. Brainstorm some
fun newlywed activities and make everyday moments exciting.
After the rush of planning a wedding, it's understandable
to feel like real life is dull in comparison. Try to adjust your mindset to
remember that the
wedding is the start of a new journey, not a destination. You can take
action on this by planning fun newlywed activities to celebrate married life.
Pencil in date nights every weekend, indulge in self-care items like candles so
staying at home is exciting, and keep a running list of fun things you'd like
to do with your partner. You can also collect new recipes to make dinner at
home a culinary adventure instead of a dreaded part of the daily routine.
4. Style and
decorate your new home.
Be excited about exciting life changes like getting
married, moving in with your spouse, and creating your forever home. Whether
you plan to live in your new home for the short-term or years to come, go
shopping for furniture and create new Pinterest boards for your dream home.
It's also fun to bargain hunt, so keep an eye out for flea markets and sales
where you can find (and maybe even restore!) your furniture.
Don't rush into buying all your furniture at the same
time-- enjoy the process and only buy pieces you're excited about.
5. Pursue a new
hobby.
Whether you had a small wedding or a huge family gathering
for your big day, wedding planning was likely a big part of your year. Make
time in your life for the hobbies you forgot about or have yet to discover. You
may check out local paint nights, take more regular walks, get a membership at
a gym, or read some fiction. Now is the time to kick back and indulge in
self-care.
6. Get Excited
about Future Vacations
Post wedding blues may be a known struggle, but so is
post-vacation blues! After the honeymoon, you may be feeling down because you
just put an exciting vacation behind you. The best thing to do is get excited
about future vacations. Make time to talk to your spouse about future
adventures and ask about what they want to do next time you take a trip.
7. Be Open to
Marriage Counseling.
You know what they say about marriage counseling. The
earlier you go the less likely you are to run into marital problems. It can be
helpful to start counseling either before the wedding or soon after to make
sure your mental health is taken care of and you both feel loved and nurtured
in your relationship.
Preventing post-wedding blues before they start is all
about saving projects for after the wedding. Not only will you reclaim your
time but you'll also feel more joy when your married life kicks off. It may be
a struggle to prevent post-wedding blues when you know your wedding is around
the corner, but with the right strategies, it's totally possible to feel
excited about a little post-wedding relaxation.
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